Friday nights are date night but since the new
year we haven’t been able to
go on a date yet. But this Friday was going to be our first date in the new year and we
were determined to do something. Our original plans had been
to go out and see a movie since we got gift
cards to go from
one of my sweet coworkers. We looked up movies we could see and
we couldn’t decide on one. We
almost didn’t go out because
we couldn’t think of anything else we could do that wouldn’t be a whole
lot of money but we wanted to go out. Then I had an idea! Of
course! Why didn’t I think of this earlier!
For Christmas Duskin’s sister
and her husband had given us both something called a “POGO PASS”. It’s a pass that gives us a ton
of different things to do for little
to no cost at all for a year.
I started looking through the list of choices we got to choose from and rock climbing
stood out. We discussed it and FINALLY decided
that’s what we were going to do and it was close to our apartment! A win win!! We both got ready and left for the
rock gym. We got to the gym and we were super
excited to get to go. We got our pogo pass
ready and we walked inside to see like 50 people
in there all over the walls. It was packed. We didn’t even get to the counter and Duskin had already
decided he didn’t want to
stay and try. I told him I was okay with leaving but when we walked back to the
car I really wasn’t okay
with not going. I mean what are we going to do now? My excitement was shot and I was not happy.
We started to drive home and he could tell I was not happy he told me that if I
wanted to stay then I should have told him that but I thought that if I made
him stay then he would not enjoy it because there was too many people. MISCOMMUNICATION from both of us! Mostly me. I shouldn’t have assumed and made up this story in my mind that he wasn’t going to
have a good time. We could have had a great time if we would have stayed but we
will never know. So now I was not happy
with him for making me
leave and he wasn’t happy with me because I didn’t tell him what I wanted. This whole marriage thing gets kinda confusing and we are definitely
still learning. Lesson learned! We
discovered that we need to both just take a moment and instead of making up these
stories in our minds we need to tell each other
what we really think…mainly me. I
always try to please him when really I’m not pleasing him I’m just making stuff
harder for
myself and him. But all in all we worked it out! WOoHOO for
communication!! We ended up going home and watching The
Fast and Furious and decided that we would try again tomorrow.
Which we did! And it was a success!!
We
got there later than planned and only had about an hour and a half to climb but
that was well enough time! We got tired!
Duskin was a champ
though and was really good. I’m more of a scaredy cat and
was having trouble at first but thank goodness for an awesome husband who talked me through it and
helped me get to the top and conquer my fear! He even got me to try harder walls that at first I was completely
terrified of. But I sure loved the whole experience…I mean who doesn’t like staring at their
husbands butt for most of the time as he climbs the
wall and I hold the rope below. It was definitely a
win win the entire time! Yay for
the pogo pass and the much needed date and most importantly yay for forgiveness and communication!
